The Likeability Factor

It should be no secret that likeable people are more likely to get ahead in the world. If people like you, they’re more willing to give you the benefit of the doubt, or a second chance, or a job, or their phone number. This was an enjoyable, quick read, filled with common sense. One idea that has stuck with me is the concept that the barriers between work and non-work are completely gone now– in the past, someone could be a jerk at work then come home to be the perfect father. Now, your friends and neighbors can google you to see your full reputation. I think it’s just good practice to be a positive human being wherever you are.
So how do you raise your L-factor? By improving your likeability (friendliness, relevance, empathy and realness). Friendliness is obvious, but woefully missing in today’s world. Relevance is the idea of bringing value to someone else. I could be the nicest person in the world, but if I didn’t have anything to offer you, I wouldn’t be relevant to you (e.g. I operate a corner store 2 blocks away from the corner store that you frequent– we’ll never meet). Empathy is putting yourself in someone else’s place and feeling (or attempting to feel) what they feel. Realness is your ability to be all of these things but still be yourself. Don’t pretend to have an interest in 19th century literature just because I do.
Bottom line– if the entire world raised their personal L-factor, it would be a happier place to be. Make it a goal to make someone smile each day.


auth=Sanders, Tim
pub=2005
sub=How to boost your L-factor and achieve your life’s dreams